How to Get What You Want

Getting what you want is not as hard as you may think.  They say that when you really want something, the whole universe conspires to help you get it.

What do you want?

The first step in getting what you want is knowing what you desire.  You must sit down and think about, really think about, what it is you wish to attract to your life.

Ignore the push-pulls

Others may envision different things for you than you envision.  In the process of obtaining your heart’s desires, it is imperative that you ignore the desires of others and focus on your desires.  Although this may sound selfish, it is often the case that people who lack confidence may wish to live through you vicariously.  Let them; but only after you’ve focused on your goals, not theirs.

Once you’ve established what it is you truly desire, like your dream job, imagine that you are already there.  See yourself in the position of your dreams, seated at your desk, in your office, with a name plate bearing your name on your office door.

Stop struggling

When you decide, visualize and believe that you’ve already obtained the position that’s best for you, for which you’re best, and that fits you most, processes will kick in to make it a reality.  It’s not that you will suddenly stop acting; you will act, but in a very limited and targeted way.  You will act only in the sense of performing necessary actions.  This may mean sending out your resume, improving your LinkedIn Profile, or making a phone call.

Why do we make it hard?

I think that we often make things harder for ourselves than they need to be because of insecurity.  We think that if we do more or push harder, we will somehow be ‘more.’  This is not true.

Be in the moment

To get your dream job, you’ll need to be in the moment.  Don’t be anxious.  Don’t try to figure out how it will happen. Instead, continue visualizing and deeply believing that what you want is already yours.

Light Balance

Light Balance, by Luba Rascheff

The Big Change You’ve Been Dreaming Of

Do you feel stuck where you are?  Unappreciated perhaps?  Are the pressures and problems of life weighing down on you?  If so, understand:  It doesn’t have to be like this.  There is a way out.

You are the way

The first thing to grasp is that you need to desire change before it can happen.  Only you know what you truly, deeply desire.


You’re going to have to motivate yourself from within–draw from inner resources–to change your outward circumstances.


Pick a place and setting where you’d like to be.  If you don’t do this, nothing will happen.


Focus on what you do best.  This is the quality everyone raves about most.  “Joe is so good at ________________________.”  (Fill in the blank.)  Doing so will enable you to grasp what you should be doing as opposed to what you’re doing.


You must believe that a big life change is possible.  Believing opens the door for possibilities to materialize.  Your new belief in yourself must be expressed in thoughts and words.

Take measured steps

Once you’re motivated, focused on your target and believe you can make the big change, take the necessary steps.  Writing down your priorities will help.

Success is inevitable

If you follow the above steps, the big change you’ve been dreaming about will happen.


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The 10 Keys to Happiness

  1. Do something nice for someone  When we do nice things for people, we feel good.
  2. Be harmonious     Although achieving this state (and maintaining it) is not as easy as it sounds, avoiding the ‘push-pulls’ of extremes is key.
  3. Give     The old maxim, ‘give and you’ll receive’ is true.  When we give–even if we feel the other may not deserve our generosity–the boomerang factor kicks in and we receive.
  4. Be patient     Understand that the best things in life take time.  Trying to ‘manufacture’ happiness is a waste of your precious time.  Resist the temptation and be patient instead.
  5. Forget     That nasty divorce?  The time you accidentally left your hand on the doorjamb and someone closed the door?  Forget those bad memories and build new, positive ones.
  6. Overcome fear     One of the biggest stoppers to being happy is being afraid.  Don’t be afraid.  Everything, no matter how bad, works out in the end.
  7. Gratitude     When we are grateful for the bounty we’ve received and feel blessed without measure, we need to say ‘thank you.’
  8. Get out in nature     Nature is a very powerful, healing force.  I walked in a forest the other day and felt an unspeakable stillness that re-energized me completely.
  9. Exercise     I like to swim.  After a good swim, I feel happy!
  10. Acknowledge difficulty     Recognize that there will be difficult moments.  Remembering, though, that they’re just moments will get you through.


Untitled, by Luba Rascheff

The10 Keys to Success

  1. Positive thinking     In order to make our dreams come true, we need to think positively.  It’s vital that we reject negative thoughts, ours or others’.
  2. Clear focus     Do you have a goal?  Keep it in the forefront of your mind.  As you perform the necessary steps toward reaching your stated objective, always remember to keep your goal first and foremost.
  3. Envision the desired result     If you know what you want most, where you want to be, visualize it.  Look at the situation or goal in your mind’s eye as if it had already happened.
  4. Steady as she goes     Refuse to be bothered by naysayers.  Continue on your chosen path knowing that it will lead to the success you’re dreaming of.
  5. Open the door     Success is like a door.  In order to reach it, you must turn the handle and open the door.  This will involve taking calculated risks.
  6. Don’t give up     Although there may be obstacles on the road to success, don’t get discouraged.  When this happen, revisit keys 1 and 3.
  7. Believe in the moment     Believe that, as you practice the above keys or, steps, that you are exactly where you should be at this very moment, regardless of anything contrary.
  8. Take needed breaks     Without the necessary rest and relaxation, you may break down.  A certain amount of indulging is required.
  9. Be grateful     While moving toward our most cherished goal, gratitude is imperative.  We need to thank the people who help us along.
  10. Accept success     In order to be successful, we need to accept success when it comes.  We need to believe in ourselves, that we are worthy of success.