Don’t Bury This Under the Rug—You Might Trip on It: Advanced Planning and Continuing Bonds

This reflection explores advance planning, end‑of‑life preparation, and the Continuing Bonds theory, offering compassionate guidance for retired seniors who are navigating questions about legacy, grief, and spiritual meaning. As a chaplain, I share practical insights, pastoral experience, and the quiet courage it takes to talk openly about what comes next. Continue reading

Can You Be My Friend? Musings of a Chaplain

When a new tenant in retirement living asked me, “Can you be my friend?”, the question touched something deep within me. As a chaplain, I walk beside people during some of their most vulnerable transitions—welcoming them, supporting them, and encouraging them as they find their place in a new community. This reflection explores what “friendship” means in the context of spiritual care, and how chaplains balance compassion, presence, and healthy boundaries while helping new residents feel at home. Continue reading