The Big Change You’ve Been Dreaming Of

Do you feel stuck where you are?  Unappreciated perhaps?  Are the pressures and problems of life weighing down on you?  If so, understand:  It doesn’t have to be like this.  There is a way out.

You are the way

The first thing to grasp is that you need to desire change before it can happen.  Only you know what you truly, deeply desire.


You’re going to have to motivate yourself from within–draw from inner resources–to change your outward circumstances.


Pick a place and setting where you’d like to be.  If you don’t do this, nothing will happen.


Focus on what you do best.  This is the quality everyone raves about most.  “Joe is so good at ________________________.”  (Fill in the blank.)  Doing so will enable you to grasp what you should be doing as opposed to what you’re doing.


You must believe that a big life change is possible.  Believing opens the door for possibilities to materialize.  Your new belief in yourself must be expressed in thoughts and words.

Take measured steps

Once you’re motivated, focused on your target and believe you can make the big change, take the necessary steps.  Writing down your priorities will help.

Success is inevitable

If you follow the above steps, the big change you’ve been dreaming about will happen.


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Grow Your Talent

As I browsed the Internet, while researching a completely unrelated topic (.xml files), I chanced upon Sean Hyman’s The Biblical Money Code. 1

The advertisement for this video was well presented, peaked my interest, and I started watching.  Soon enough, I was hooked, taking notes even as I absorbed the material.

Hyman, an investment expert and former pastor, posits that if we want to obtain, in his words, “a blessing of practical wealth that goes far beyond [our] own needs or wants,” we need to stop loving money.

What’s the love of money?

According to Hyman, the love of money means that you love it so much that you’ll risk all the money you have in an ill-advised manner in order to get more; or, alternatively, that you love it so much that you’ll hold onto it for fear of losing what you have.  Hyman condemns both approaches.

The Parable of the Talents

The investor uses the Parable of the Talents 2 to make his point.  In this old story, before going on a long trip, a master gives (according to their abilities) five talents to one servant, two to another and one to a third.  Each talent represents twenty years of wages–a lot of money.  The first two servants trade their talents and, when the master eventually returns, give him double what he entrusted to them.  The third servant, though, justifies himself by saying, “I knew you were a tough guy, winning effortlessly and getting rewards painlessly.  I was afraid of you, so I hid the talent you gave me.  Here, take what’s yours.” 3

As happy and satisfied as the master is with the first two servants, he is furious and utterly dissatisfied with the third.  He takes away this servant’s talent and gives it to the first servant (who turned five into ten) and condemns the third servant saying, “You lazy, no good servant, you could have at least put my money in the bank and given me interest.” 4

What’s a talent?  Or, what is talent?

The word talent can mean “a unit of money equal to the value of a talent of gold or silver” or “general ability or intelligence.” 5  If we interpret the story allegorically, then we can say that by not trading (exchanging) our abilities with others, we are not growing and have squandered potential that was given us.

Hyman asks, and I’m paraphrasing, “What’s so bad about giving back the one talent the master gave him to begin with?  Why such a harsh response?”

Lost opportunities

They say that opportunities only come once.  If you don’t grab an opportunity, you risk losing it forever.  If your talents (gold, silver, cash) are stashed away, though, or you’re keeping your natural abilities under wraps, you’ve definitely squandered your potential–as well as the potential of others.


According to Hyman, the problem with hiding talent is squandering potential.  By hiding the talent, twenty years of wages couldn’t grow.  There was no trading, no exchange and no possibility for increase.  It was an expensive asset that lay idle for a very long time.

Money, according to the investment expert, needs to be invested and put to work.  We mustn’t let fear or the love of money stop us from:  stepping out (i.e., taking mitigated risks that will lead to stable and reliable returns); looking well into the matter of investment (like King Solomon, formerly the richest man on earth); and doing what’s needed to grow our talents.

Buck the trend

Sean Hyman cites two examples of very rich men who built their fortunes by doing the exact opposite of what others were doing.

Warren Buffett, one of the four richest people on earth, with an estimated net worth of fifty-three billion dollars said, “Be fearful when others are greedy and be greedy when others are fearful.” 6

Sir John Templeton, founder of the Templeton Prize said, “The time of maximum pessimism is the best time to buy, and the time of maximum optimism is the best time to sell.” 7


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1 Hyman, Sean. The Biblical Money Code. Accessed on Wednesday, August 14, 2013.

2 Matthew 25:14-30, KJV.

3 Ibid., verses 24-25, my interpretation.

4 Ibid., verses 26-27.

5 “Talent.” The Penguin Dictionary. Second edition. London: The Penguin Group, 2003.

6 See footnote 1.

7 Ibid.

The 10 Keys to Happiness

  1. Do something nice for someone  When we do nice things for people, we feel good.
  2. Be harmonious     Although achieving this state (and maintaining it) is not as easy as it sounds, avoiding the ‘push-pulls’ of extremes is key.
  3. Give     The old maxim, ‘give and you’ll receive’ is true.  When we give–even if we feel the other may not deserve our generosity–the boomerang factor kicks in and we receive.
  4. Be patient     Understand that the best things in life take time.  Trying to ‘manufacture’ happiness is a waste of your precious time.  Resist the temptation and be patient instead.
  5. Forget     That nasty divorce?  The time you accidentally left your hand on the doorjamb and someone closed the door?  Forget those bad memories and build new, positive ones.
  6. Overcome fear     One of the biggest stoppers to being happy is being afraid.  Don’t be afraid.  Everything, no matter how bad, works out in the end.
  7. Gratitude     When we are grateful for the bounty we’ve received and feel blessed without measure, we need to say ‘thank you.’
  8. Get out in nature     Nature is a very powerful, healing force.  I walked in a forest the other day and felt an unspeakable stillness that re-energized me completely.
  9. Exercise     I like to swim.  After a good swim, I feel happy!
  10. Acknowledge difficulty     Recognize that there will be difficult moments.  Remembering, though, that they’re just moments will get you through.


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The10 Keys to Success

  1. Positive thinking     In order to make our dreams come true, we need to think positively.  It’s vital that we reject negative thoughts, ours or others’.
  2. Clear focus     Do you have a goal?  Keep it in the forefront of your mind.  As you perform the necessary steps toward reaching your stated objective, always remember to keep your goal first and foremost.
  3. Envision the desired result     If you know what you want most, where you want to be, visualize it.  Look at the situation or goal in your mind’s eye as if it had already happened.
  4. Steady as she goes     Refuse to be bothered by naysayers.  Continue on your chosen path knowing that it will lead to the success you’re dreaming of.
  5. Open the door     Success is like a door.  In order to reach it, you must turn the handle and open the door.  This will involve taking calculated risks.
  6. Don’t give up     Although there may be obstacles on the road to success, don’t get discouraged.  When this happen, revisit keys 1 and 3.
  7. Believe in the moment     Believe that, as you practice the above keys or, steps, that you are exactly where you should be at this very moment, regardless of anything contrary.
  8. Take needed breaks     Without the necessary rest and relaxation, you may break down.  A certain amount of indulging is required.
  9. Be grateful     While moving toward our most cherished goal, gratitude is imperative.  We need to thank the people who help us along.
  10. Accept success     In order to be successful, we need to accept success when it comes.  We need to believe in ourselves, that we are worthy of success.